My parents, Jovan Belcher, Murder, Suicide,…….where are we? 

I’m not a statistician, or a crime reports enthusiast but I’m sure when my father murdered my mother in 1977 – it was considered a rare crime. Till’ this day I still wonder what the back story was. What was my father going through? What was on his mind? What kind of demons did he have? Was there a psychiatric issue? All unanswered questions that pop up in my head from time to time.

To be honest; these are unwanted thoughts. I’d rather not think about such but I can’t stop because it seems every month I’m…Read more

The Hood, Suburbs, Good Kids, Bad Kids and Parenting 

I grew up at 17385 Pinehurst on Detroit’s west-side in the 80s and 90s. It was more “neighborhood than “hood” but nonetheless – it still had its challenges. My grandfather was savvy to the threats surrounding me/us. There was always: “Don’t go near That House”, “Stay away from Those Kids,” “Stay away from That Corner,” or “You can’t be friends with That Kid.” (For the record – he was always right.) And honestly I feel his job was easier as a parent than mine is now because the bad kids actually looked like…Read more

The Importance of People  

One of the most important things we can do with our lives is to connect with people that have the potential to help us. This doesn’t mean you have to necessarily be what’s called a “People Person” but you have to recognize when a person has the potential to help further your goals and at least try to reach out to that person. A few examples:

-In 1994 (my first year of community college) I found myself in a basic composition class. After about 1 week and 2 assignments, my teacher (Dr. Willey) suggested that…Read more

The World we Live in 

At this point in parenthood I absolutely understand the looks of concern and hope my grandfather gave me on a daily basis because I give my children the exact same looks. The world is an ever evolving sphere with way more bobby traps and challenges than I ever had at their ages. Now I see why my grand ma made me memorize Psalm 23.

Please & Thank you 

It’s easy and common to pray to your preferred savior when you’re ambitious and reaching for your goals. But when you get there: do you pray and “say thanks” as passionately as you “asked please?”

Every Day in Every Way........ 

“Every day in every way, I am getting better and better”


It’s amazing where you can find tid-bits of motivation. It was my first time watching HBO’s Boardwalk Empire this morning. A pretty violent and graphic series but low and behold – this nugget of inspiration was uttered in a random scene that had nothing to do with the overall plot of the show. This is the equivalent of just pulling into the store and seeing a parking space in the front. Remember – motivation is all around you – you just have to be…Read more

Just Live 

When you’re young, “Consistency” seems a lot less desirable than “Spontaneity.” That changes when you get older, settled down, and really start navigating through life. However, part of staying “young” is embracing some sort of “Spontaneity.”

Lesson here: Don’t let everyday be “Ground Hog Day” but don’t let everyday be “Hangover Pt. 1” either. Just live.

Consistency 

 There was a point in time where I hated “consistency.” But not anymore. There is something very wonderful about waking up to the same woman, hitting the gym, making breakfast for the kids, taking them to karate, gymnastics or basketball practice. I'm 36 going on 37. My days of constantly seeking “action” or trying to define the beauty in a unplanned day is over. And its nothing wrong with that. My kids are beautiful, growing, loving and I'm enjoying everyday of it.   

Favorite Quote 

“You see things; you say, 'Why?' But I dream things that never were; and I say 'Why not?”
― George Bernard Shaw


This is the quote I have lived my life around for the last 10 years.

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