Daughters, Daddy, Valentine’s Day, Communication, and Relationships

I have four children – 2 boys and 2 girls. I love them all and have been doing/trying to build/maintain strong communication and relationships with them both. I’ll be honest – It’s much easier with boys than girls-lol.

Boys haven’t changed too much over the years. We like sports, video games, music, cars and girls. Though my sons are into things much earlier than I was; I still have had the same experiences. I can relate to them and have sturdy relationships with them both.

My daughters are harder. I was never a girl-lol. I never played with dolls, kitchen sets, or make-ups kits. I never switched up my wardrobe 3 times while getting ready for school or had to worry about my hair. Girls are from a totally different planet which means trying to communicate in a genuine manner is a bit trickier. I watch TV with them, play with toys, cook with them but rarely have deep moments of reflection and introspection the same way I do with my boys. While I can bond with the boys over the NBA finals it’s not quite the same with the Disney channel. They’re young (4 & 11) so I have plenty of time and I “know” I will develop great relationships with them because I’m committed to doing so.

But right now – I get to be “daddy,” I get to be their hero. So I constantly focus on setting a good example. They see their mother get kissed when I get home every day, they see doors opened for their mother, and flowers/candy delivered weather it’s a holiday or not. Their mother is my queen and both of them are princesses.

So today – they will get spoiled with candy, gift cards, hallmark cards, other treats and a personal love letter from Dad. My standard of how a man should treat a woman is set and will continue to be maintained. No little boyfriend with bad habits, a deep voice, and a fancy car will ever take my place. They won’t impress easy and completely understand what “love” is because they will see it in action every single day.
 

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  • Jennie Kay

    Jennie Kay

    Beautiful. Thank you for sharing, and thank you for your commitment to raising strong adults built on love, understanding and respect. Much love to you and your family on this Valentine's Day.

    Beautiful. Thank you for sharing, and thank you for your commitment to raising strong adults built on love, understanding and respect. Much love to you and your family on this Valentine's Day.

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